How NOT To Be Lonely
Scripture Lesson: Lamentations 1:1-2, 4, 6, 7, Philippians 4:10-14
When Dr. Broughton asked me to speak at a Singles’ Seminar and to discuss the topic of loneliness, I thought about it for a couple of seconds, then said that it DEFINITELY would not be a problem—-not because of the event, but because of the subject itself—would I have enough to talk about? I already knew that speaking on behalf of myself, when it came to loneliness, I was not only single, but had been in relationships in the past that had fallen apart, AND was from a family of ONE—I was an only child, with no siblings/brothers/sisters, and had, throughout my life, had times where I felt lonely. I had had (and still have) friends who have mentioned loneliness in terms of looking for a mate—and sometimes, that “loneliness” pushed him or her into making a snap decision when it came to marriage. We’ve heard it before—“I know that God said to wait, but…I’m lonely”, or “I do not want to become an old maid—I may never get this chance again”, or even—I have heard this statement many times—“God is taking too long.” I have to say that sometimes, the snap decision works, but, in my personal experience, it often does not; unfortunately, it backfires, and the person spends time emotionally and mentally hurt, and sometimes, if he/she has gotten married, in divorce court. The person then, very often, is soured on any future relationships that may come his or her way.
Also, loneliness, does not necessarily limit itself to single persons; a person can be lonely no matter WHAT his/her marital status may be (single, married—YES, I SAID MARRIED :)—divorced, widowed, separated). A person may be in a room full of people, and still be lonely, even if he/she is with family and/or friends. In putting together this sermonette, I thought of my mother, who was an only child also—she was married, loved my father tremendously, and had much family, and many friends; however, during her life, she spent much time looking for her “siblings”—any half-brothers or sisters that she may have had by her father, whom she never really had a relationship with. She said to me that she grew up always wanting a “brother or sister” to spend time with, and that she did not want me to go through some of the feelings of loneliness that she ha experienced. She, nor my mother’s family was, to my knowledge, never able to find any other siblings in our family tree, but in writing this sermonette, my mind went back to that situation. Having a person present does not mean that the feeling of loneliness is not, or will not, occur sometime in one’s lifetime; a person can be lonely no matter what their marital status may be.
So, how does a person cope with loneliness? After praying to the Lord and then mediating about this particular subject, He has given me three points to discuss: we are to:
I. Be content in one’s self (you’re the only “you” that you’ve got)
II. Be content in one’s current situation (just like the seasons, it will not last forever)
III. Be content in one’s surroundings (if you don’t like them, change them for the good)
We will cover each of these points in our next three posts on Wednesdays and Sundays, beginning with Point I—Be Content In One’s Self (You’re The Only “You” That You’ve Got)!
God bless you, everyone—see you next week! 🙂
Submitted By: Shonda R. Greene, M.Ed., MTS 🙂